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I'd like 'Flouncers' for 200, Alex.

Earlier this week on an online support community, I attempted to communicate with a member that complained no-one was responding to their posts. I guessed that part of it was that they were difficult to read, but I left her a comment I would reread her posts in the morning and give them feedback.

(An average post by her ran about 1000 words with no paragraph breaks, punctuation only at the end of sentences and then with no space after the period, no apostrophes in contractions, and misspellings approximately every sixth word. The content of her posts can be summarized as that she has a lot of anger, hates people in general, hates her family, and she doesn't understand why she couldn't find a bunch of girlfriends like her to have slumber parties and watch The Thornbirds.)

Before I got around to replying to her posts today, I got the following message from her through their system:

U are just too young for me as a friend sorry U I am 44 yrs old and looking for mature friendss who have been married a long time and my age sorry.

I almost spit my drink at that. What do I know about maturity? Maybe I'd better rent The Thornbirds.


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Dec. 1st, 2006 07:53 pm (UTC)
woah. some people...blech! i sent you a comment on a later post. did you get it?
Dec. 2nd, 2006 12:10 am (UTC)
I did, but I've already done up my budget for the month. Sorry.
Dec. 1st, 2006 08:25 pm (UTC)

You are definitely much more mature than her.
Dec. 1st, 2006 10:06 pm (UTC)
I thought the age thing was bizarre. My first thought was "Aren't we all adults here?".

I don't have a link to my LJ there, but she'd probably freak if she saw that I don't exclusively friend people within a few years of my age. She'd probably freak even more if I told her that my husband is her age! (:
Dec. 4th, 2006 04:19 pm (UTC)
People are so weird. Why put a limit on WHO you can relate to and be friends with?? Odd.
Dec. 1st, 2006 09:05 pm (UTC)
I'm always startled by the number of people that I initially assume to be my age or younger based on the crappy quality of their writing/spelling/formatting, who turn out to be much older. Clearly, crappy writing skillz don't originate in the Internet age.
Dec. 1st, 2006 11:59 pm (UTC)

(It would be really funny here if Typewriter Guy went "yip yip" like the Martians.)
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Dec. 2nd, 2006 12:01 am (UTC)
I've never seen the miniseries, but I liked the novel when I was going through my saga phase. (:

Did you know that NFL player D'Brickashaw Ferguson was named after Father Ralph de Bricassart? *boggles*
Dec. 1st, 2006 10:10 pm (UTC)

I want/need friends.

But only if they match this very long list requirements."


Let her wallow.

She needs professional help and trying to be helpful and friendly will either get you slapped down (wait that's already happened) or get you dragged into her swamp.

Dec. 2nd, 2006 12:05 am (UTC)
I'm pretty well liked at that site because I've got mad skillz at recommending appropriate techniques to try for depression and anxiety symptoms. (Also books, assistance programs and things of that nature, but I think most of my LJ friends already knew that.) I'm glad to know all my experience as a mental health consumer is worth something! (:

I left her swamp and helped walk a 65-year-old through getting enrollment paperwork for a prescription assistance program. I think that evens out my karmic debt for forgetting to put up the chicken soup last night.
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Dec. 2nd, 2006 12:09 am (UTC)
See, that's why I love LiveJournal!

LJ seeps over into my daily life sometimes, too. When I was doing my treatment plan update today and my case worker asked if I was using drugs (a standard question, nothing implied there), I replied, "I'm addicted to Skittles ...and crack!". After I stopped laughing I explained someone had actually said that to a friend of mine that's a case worker in another part of the country (slutmuphin) and that no, I'm not using drugs other than taking my currently prescribed ones every day.
Dec. 2nd, 2006 12:09 am (UTC)
Also, how is married life treating you? (:
Dec. 2nd, 2006 01:00 am (UTC)

ah, age does not always come with experience, sometimes age comes all by it's self.

i'm older than she is, and i choose you as my friend.
Dec. 2nd, 2006 06:27 am (UTC)
I know! I'm just a little older than Killi now that I think about it, but if I wasn't you'd just continue to be filed in my head as "Hush's mom" because Laurel loves your Hush puppy. (:
Dec. 2nd, 2006 06:04 pm (UTC)
*laughs* well, hush is the only one still needing mothering. :D

i prefer to choose my friends by their brains and hearts and morals and such, not by anything as arbitrary as age.

and when i ask for help, i have the grace and courage to accept it with thanks.
Dec. 2nd, 2006 01:23 am (UTC)
I really didn't think this sort of thing mattered once you were out of high school... but I just can't believe someone who is 44 would type like that.
Dec. 2nd, 2006 06:26 am (UTC)
Yeah, neither did I. I'm actually not sure how old some of my friends are because it's just not that important to me. I do write birthdays sans years on my calendar, though, so I can remember to wish folks a happy birthday close to their actual birthday.

Filling out my 2007 calendar this week, I wrote "have [name]'s card out in mail!" about a week before birthdays where I send cards. Hopefully that'll curb my habit of sending them belatedly.
Dec. 2nd, 2006 01:45 am (UTC)
So funny. I found a comment that A's friend Jean made about me recently...she told him, "She (meaning me) is too immature for you."

As if she knows me or anything about my relationship with A to be the judge of that. So annoying. They're spending the next week together (the first time they've been alone since she left her husband) and it will be interesting to see how it goes. Wish him luck, 'cause I think she's a little crazy. ;)

I hope you're well! :)
Dec. 2nd, 2006 06:22 am (UTC)
I always take third party relationship opinions with a grain of salt... or an entire salt mine if it's coming from my sister, who has a habit of being almost too excited every time I've dated someone and then trash-talking them after it's ended. I do agree with her that Himself is acting like a deadbeat, but I think anyone would given the facts of our case.)

I am doing quite well, thanks. I had a regular 8-week visit with my psychiatrist today, did a new treatment plan with my case worker, who noted that I've really improved since he saw me in June, and got a referral to a job rehabilitation program .I go back to the clinic in two weeks for my next medication refill. Since it's on a school day, I think I'll figure out the bus routes to get there and back on my own. It's time for me to get over my fear of DART. (Many people have told me it's anarchy compared to RTD, which is daunting, but I commuted via RTD for a couple of years and lived to tell the tale.)
Dec. 2nd, 2006 08:31 pm (UTC)
Holy crap! Judging by the spelling, I'd gather she was 14, not 44.

At least you tried.
Dec. 3rd, 2006 07:04 am (UTC)

I love this. Very, very much.
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