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The DFW-DEN flight was uneventful beyond free in-seat TV programming and Laurel peeing through her Pull-Up. (I changed her pre-boarding, it apparently wasn't enough!). She's been with me at my parents' since and happy as a bug.

Himself called this morning wanting to get her for the entire two weeks, minus the wedding. I held my ground and said no visitation without a signed agreement (for legal cover if he tries to take off with her) and was silent every time he said something I shouldn't dignify with a response -- go me. He'll be coming up in the morning for us to have the agreement notarized in lieu of a lawyer; the following is my best attempt at composing an agreement and is posted mostly for vogonpoet and any other interested parties to suggest changes to prior to me printing it off in the morning. If you think something is so urgent you should contact me before I hop online in the morning, call my cell phone at 720-480-2396.

Visitation Agreement

[oddharmonic] ("Custodian"), the current full custodial parent of [midget] ("Child"), agrees with [Himself] ("Non-Custodial Parent") to a period of non-supervised visitation between the Child and Non-Custodial Parent beginning 27 July 2004 and ending 6 August 2004.

1. The parties agree that the Non-Custodial Parent will be responsible for transporting the Child to and from the Child's maternal grandparents' home, located at [street address, city, state, ZIP code], and return the Child no later than 2:00 PM on 6 August 2004.

2. The parties acknowledge that failure by the Non-Custodial Parent to return the Child by the agreed time or notify the Custodian that return will be delayed due to extenuating circumstances will result in the Custodian notifying appropriate law enforcement agencies to locate the Child and return her to the Custodian.

3. The Non-Custodial Parent acknowledges that failure to return the Child at the agreed time, or in an expedient manner if delayed, will affect future decisions relating to the Child's custody agreement.

4. Nothing contained in this agreement shall be construed as an obligation or a duty on the part of the Non-Custodial Parent to accept custody of the Child at the time or for the period indicated. The intention of the parties is that the Non-Custodial Parent's right of visitation shall be entirely optional to Non-Custodial Parent, and should the Non-Custodial Parent so desire, Non-Custodial Parent may waive the privilege of visitation on any occasion and for any reason, without waiving Non-Custodial Parent's right to future visits.

________________________________________ Date: ______________
Signature of Non-Custodial Parent

Non-Custodial Parent's Printed or Typed Name

________________________________________ Date: ______________
Signature of Custodian

Custodian's Printed or Typed Name


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Jul. 26th, 2004 08:51 pm (UTC)
looks alright to me. fairly boilerplate agreement.
Jul. 27th, 2004 07:24 am (UTC)
Thanks. I was going for boilerplate so there's less for him to question.
Jul. 28th, 2004 12:28 pm (UTC)
I was just gonna say, consult with my lawyer cousin!
Jul. 26th, 2004 09:28 pm (UTC)
for legal cover if he tries to take off with her

Off the wall idea here, but since abducting the child is already a criminal offense, perhaps having him sign something that would guarantee you a large sum of money should he try to take off with the child be in order to add a a civil suit (read: walk in the park) on top of the shit he'd be in anyway.
Jul. 26th, 2004 09:29 pm (UTC)

I understand there is no price tag you can put on the child, but the financial obligations on top of criminal charges would perhaps serve as an exrta incentive for him not to fuck with you.
Jul. 27th, 2004 07:39 am (UTC)
It's a perfectly reasonable idea. I'm trying not to bring money into it because I suspect he'd refuse to sign the agreement if I did -- I wouldn't be heartbroken if that happened, but I would feel like I'd cheated Laurel out of quality time with her paternal side of the family.

I just want a baseline "if you f*ck up, Bad Things will happen" agreement that he's willing to agree to so Laurel can spend time with him but guarantee she'll be back in Evergreen in time for my sister's wedding (the reason why we're visiting Colorado this time).
Jul. 26th, 2004 09:45 pm (UTC)
Looks good.

Zap the G-parents address as this is a unlocked post.
Jul. 26th, 2004 11:00 pm (UTC)
I concur, and I also had to admit that it's a bit funny that you edited out names, but not the address (although, isn't that all available-like on yer site, anyway? Either way...). Anyway, though, even though I know squat about this sort of thing, it seems OK to me.
Jul. 27th, 2004 07:47 am (UTC)
I actually edited out names because I thought it would be funny-looking to use real names for me and Laurel but [Himself] for Himself since he asked me not to use his name online outside of oddharmonic.org a few years ago.

Yes, that address is the one I use on contact pages in the castle.geek.net hierarchy. When I lived in North Carolina, mail sent there got to me faster than mail sent to my NC address.

I went for fairly straight boilerplate to leave as little as possible for questioning by him.
Jul. 27th, 2004 07:42 am (UTC)

I left the address in because it's public knowledge (it's been my permanent address for over a decade and I've used it on my website's contact page for all but a year of the time I've had one), but I've edited it out to fit with the boilerplate for folks on my LJ Friends list to read.
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