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This is the third time in six weeks I am bleeding. I know I probably wasn't grateful enough for only menstruating 4-5 times a year before I got pregnant with Laurel, but this is not funny.

If it doesn't let up by Monday, I'm calling the clinic.

I'm sure they'll give me guff for not having had a pelvic in nearly three years, but at this point I'd be very happy if they'd finally approve me for permanent sterilization since talking to my PA about getting an IUD in March resulted in "let's wait until you're older." Bah. If there's any way I can swing a tubal or an essure out of this, I will. One kid is more than enough for me and if they can put me through menopause now I'd be so happy I'd throw a party.

I really should make a TMI light one of these days -- my lunch table from D'Evelyn probably still remembers it, along with the blinking sarcasm light and the Revel nipple lid (which Will helpfully opened into Kevin's surprised face almost every day *chuckles*) -- man, I wish I could still get that stuff. I loved Ginger Payne for donating flats to the Evergreen music department so I could live all musical season off the fruity-spicy caffeinated goodness. And thinking about that makes me feel better. Now all I need is that hug returned from Andy via James and I'll be set, although Andy gives the best hugs. I wish I could jump out of planes too -- you Airborne people have all the fun. *wry grin*

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morganastar
Jun. 27th, 2003 04:56 pm (UTC)
You know, I don't understand why doctors are like that, shouldn't it be your decision if you want to have any more children or not? I mean im sure you wouldnt just go and abuse the ability to stop creating if you were mad at your husband and whatnot. My friend is 27 she has 3 kids and her and hubby decided they dont want anymore, so she went to get her tubes tied and the doc says "no you are too young, who knows you might want to give yourself a birthday present for your 30th birthday". She finally found another doctor who agreed to do it on her, but god.. shouldnt that be your own call?
oddharmonic
Jun. 27th, 2003 05:24 pm (UTC)
I understand why I'm told to wait -- we have Tricare (military healthcare) and while I'd have to ask for exact numbers, there's apparently a high rate of women Tricare has paid for tubals on that later wanted reversals.

I've been told by my base clinic that the general rule of thumb here is that I have to have three kids (no effin' way I'm doing that!), be over 25, or have a medical need for it before I can get a tubal.

As much as I hate to say it, apparently most people don't have the conviction a lot of childfree people have to NOT want children. If having one kid isn't enough proof to them that I've done my duty and don't want anything else coming out of that hole that's not a prophylactic or attached to its owner, I don't know what is.
ex_dervish821
Jun. 27th, 2003 05:26 pm (UTC)
I think that's pretty universal, not just for Tricare. That's why I hear so many stories of women being told they have to wait to get a tubal.
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ex_dervish821
Jun. 27th, 2003 05:57 pm (UTC)
my husband can't get one until he's 25, or has 2 kids (which will be november). but still, that's a much better deal on the guy's side.
vogonpoet
Jun. 29th, 2003 04:18 am (UTC)
You're right. A vasectomy is much easier to... er... UNcorrect... er... to reverse, anyway.
oddharmonic
Jun. 27th, 2003 06:25 pm (UTC)
I've only had Tricare since I was 19; before that my HMO (Pacficare) sucked so badly I couldn't tell what their requirements were. They're really big on HRT, though. I'm glad Mom didn't give in to the Evil Shouldn't Be A Doctor when she tried to sell her on it because with Mom's family medical history, HRT would do more harm than good.

I've been trying to get a tubal since I turned 18. So far it hasn't worked, but I know someone who was able to get one without having kids first after her (excellent) psych advocated it for her mental health. I was saving to go to Mexico and get one when I got pregnant with Laurel but that fund's long gone, so I think my best choice may be to use my benefits before Robert goes to the reserves and take my chances with a psych.
morganastar
Jun. 27th, 2003 05:28 pm (UTC)
Re:
well if you are under 25 you are still young i guess, but my friend HAS 3 kids and is over 25 and the doctor was trying to convince her to have more.. weird.
oddharmonic
Jun. 27th, 2003 06:43 pm (UTC)
Her doctor's either nuts or doesn't have kids.

Since I've had jack for luck so far with Tricare, we had been trying to see if Robert (my husband) could get a vasectomy instead, but when his job got moved off the flightline, he got a different doctor and the new one won't even consider it.

It's really too bad there isn't a do-it-yourself method for sterilization. We'd save Tricare loads of money if they'd just fix one of us -- I could live without sinus meds if I didn't have the extra hormones making it worse at certain points in the month and I could have taken care of his elbow for way less than Tricare was billed last year (which isn't really related to his sperm count, but since we weren't getting any other benefit out of Tricare he got two days off work while going through the rounds of getting his arm x-rayed and set since the clinic can't handle it).
morganastar
Jun. 27th, 2003 06:49 pm (UTC)
Re:
Well there are do it yourself methods for sterilization, although hubby might be rather uncomfortable ;)

I'm pretty sure me and my SO are going to be childfree. While I love kids to death I could never see myself being unselfish enough to raise a rugrat of my own. I just hate the thought of being on birth control until im 40
azaelya
Jun. 27th, 2003 06:57 pm (UTC)
girl bits
My girl bits have been stupid lately too. And I just moved, so it's been an adventure and a half to get into an OBGYN up here. Crimony. I was seriously about to kill someone. I can understand why you'd be ready to give up on the girl parts...they are such a hassle.
lil_sass
Jun. 27th, 2003 07:34 pm (UTC)
Always take care of your health first and foremost.
liannanshith
Jun. 27th, 2003 09:41 pm (UTC)
It's a shame the Evergreen Music Department *ran out* of Revel by the time I showed up. Hmmn, now that I'm a senior... I'm one of the last to remember that stuff, and that was imparted by the one's who just graduated... I wonder if any of them have anymore stockpiled somewhere.
liannanshith
Jun. 27th, 2003 09:46 pm (UTC)
Oh, and being on PacifiCare sucks. At least you're off of it. I've still got to muck around with them. My eyedoctor commented on how little their VSP plan puts towards vision, so I'm paying for contacts out of pocket. Jerks. The next thing I know I'll be bickering over what I need for my "PPO" and that I really do need the psych I'm seeing... You'd think an HMO might just want to keep their customers. Well, they do, particularly if you're buying the expensive services from them.
oddharmonic
Jun. 28th, 2003 07:23 pm (UTC)
You should ask. I'd trade limbs for more of that stuff. It was in the local grocery stores when I transferred to D'Evelyn (fall 1996) so I bought a six-pack every week and had it as my lunch drink... then when I had more, I was buying two six-packs a week.
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